Craigslist Rant and Raves - Ever Date A Black Woman?

please let me clarify before i ask, this is NOT meant to be racist... just want opinions...

most people agree that stereotypes exist, and some for a good reason. one stereotype that comes to mind for the sake of this question, is the "ghetto black woman" you all know the one, named "Shameequa or Laquana" or something similar.

my question is, has that stereotype pretty much eliminated black women's chances in the dating pool?? i have heard men, of ALL races and colors say, i have an ASIAN fetish, or a whitegirl fetish, or a spanish booty fetish, or a bbw fetish, but i have never heard anyone say they have a black woman fetish...

so here is my question... has the stereotype, of the angry black ghetto woman, ruined the dating chances for ALL black women, even the ones that arent ghetto?

for me personally, i think black chicks have awesome bodies, but i cant imagine sitting through a date, or anything, with someone who cant speak, talk, act or project themselves as anything much much better than a ghetto black angry woman.

am i alone in this?

are there any black ladies that can she some experience to my question?

also, if you are a black woman, but dont live in the ghetto, and dont speak ebonics, and have an education without attitude, do you as a black woman have a problem with the "ghetto" black woman or do you feel solidarity with them ?
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Response:


To respond to your question and to give general information:

Black people in general are a very much varied in culture and upbringing. Unfortunately most people on recognize the southern “ghetto” black American culture as being representative of all black culture which is far from the truth. There are many blacks that come from various cultures in the Caribbean , South America, and Africa that are not at all like southern “ghetto” black Americans. Even if one travels to the north and middle America you’ll find that black culture is different than the stereotypical southern ghetto bullshit you see on television. There are also many blacks in the south that do not uphold that disgusting ghetto stereotype. It sometimes takes opening up one’s eyes, getting out more, and not watching the shit that is supposed to represent us on television to realize this. I am an educated woman of black Caribbean/South American decent and get frustrated when those stereotypes are placed upon me and my family.

If one wants want a decent black women, I do not advice going to the nearest ghetto to find one (not that all blacks in the ghetto are ignorant. Some are there solely because of their economic situation, but usually make their way out with time). You can find intelligent black women where you would find other intelligent people, i.e. bookstores, universities, offices vs. the corner store, Wal-Mart, and your local crack provider. No one wants to sit through a date with an idiot. You can date idiots of all races so why is it that people are afraid of black women because of some idiots that happen to be black?

And I have met men with a black women fetish but are afraid of the stereotypes, so yes it does kind o kill dating in a way, but then again it doesn’t because when people talk to me (and even just look at me) they KNOW that I am not a stereotype. As a matter of fact the man that I am currently in love with is a white Colombian that is ready to move me to the other side of the country with him.

And honestly making fun of stereotypical black American names is immature and racist. One must educate themselves on why some black Americans name their children that way and why certain names are deemed ghetto just because it is popular a name among black people. The fact is many common black names are of Arabic or African decent that have actual meaning. Some actually are made up because it was a way of black americans in the past to create a culture among themselves because their culture was taken away from them and white culture and names forced upon them. Sometimes it takes a little digging to understand why people do the things they do. Ones name should not determine how one would act.

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